Testimonials – Victoria Dickenson

If you are reading this then you are probably ready to accept the help you so deserve.
As a family we experienced child estrangement.
The loss and grief rippled through our family and we dealt with it in our different ways. Physically I began to shut down. Christmas and birthday season took its toll to the point that I could no longer eat. I was stuck in a freeze state. I reached out for help.
Finding Victoria was the first step to bringing joy back in our lives. In just 3 sessions she melted away 3 years of trauma. I found me again. She gave me a safe and calm space, I felt a spiritual connection and together with the help of the Havening technique
I found healing. This impacted our whole family. Although we all hope it will not be forever(we still feel a loss ) we are accepting the new us and by sending out our love with acceptance and understanding, we can now move forward with positivity.
To enjoy life again and make each day count is a gift.
So my advice: Don't waste another moment in your situation.There is a way forward:just trust in the process. Good luck in your journey!

I found Victoria at a time of the greatest need in my life. She helped me navigate a tremendous loss and years of trauma with the best of personal and professional care. This was done through listening, acknowledging and supporting me to fully process what had happened as well as guidance to a future pathway filled with hope. A really important part of the process has been the soothing practice of Havening which not only helped with the initial trauma but has also become an integrated part of my life. Thank you Victoria. With gratitude.

CER

I am most grateful to have met Victoria and discovered Havening. After just the first session I felt a huge change in my anxiety; negative feelings that had bothered me for years were eased. Across a number of sessions we worked through traumas which have previously had a debilitating effect on my daily life.

No other type of therapy I've tried before has had the same instant effect nor has it been as permanent. I feel the more optimistic about the future than I ever have before thanks to Victoria and Havening.

- SL

Victoria was exceptionally tuned into what I needed and could cope with. The sessions helped a lot, and I have confidence about going forward. I have more resilience and better understanding of myself and how to live more meaningfully
I couldn't recommend Victoria highly enough

Thank you for all your help and support during my therapy sessions. you have given me hope, strength and inspiration to go forward in my life.

Home to my heart: My journey with Victoria and Havening
I came to Victoria in a hopeless, faithless and trust-less state. I was getting by because I am a survivor, but this time I felt stuck and didn't want to bother to work so hard any more. My will and heart were broken. What's the point? I wondered.
I've known Vic for 40 years but had not seen nor talked with her for over 7 years. Out of the blue she called me. When she mentioned her Havening work, I was ready to try the idea for me. I knew I needed to release my traumas. I wanted to understand how my brain waves worked and to open my heart once again.
Vic's gentle, respectful guidance took me through many sessions. She was insightful, reassuring and professional as we uncovered many layers of my life. I always felt safe as she protectively lead me in Havening: uniting my fractured selves, processing deep, dark emotions and letting go of my life long patterns of compensation. She wisely helped me to see my own light, and work on integrating my shadow and true self. Our comfortable conversations empowered me with self knowledge and tools of Havening, so that I can continue to help myself. I can recognise my old patterns, forgive myself and others and have faith in each day.
I so appreciate Vic's patience and commitment to assisting me in my growth and kindly nurturing me each step of the way home to my heart

GS. via Zoom. USA

Victoria has been wonderful. I've tried counselling before and hated it. This time I couldn't recommend it more. Havening has been so good and I will continue to use it in the future.
Thank you so much for your help and guidance. Hopefully won't need it again but if I do I'll certainly be back !

I found Victoria very caring and responsive to my anxieties. She listened to me and made me begin to see things with more understanding- from my childhood situation until now. She helped me to understand situations long forgotten and how they have impacted on my character. She has given me skills- Havening Techniques- to help me focus and be more positive about myself. I feel I can more forward with more energy and determination to become happier and more fulfilled with my life

When I first met Victoria, I was suffering from anxiety over an infestation of spiders in my home.
I couldn’t step into my own home without feeling anxious, or even use my living room.
After one Havening session with Victoria I was able to step into my home without trepidation and even sit in my living room, which I hadn’t done for months.

Thank you Victoria

” ‘John’ was born with a condition that doctors have labelled leucodystrophy, which basically means a partial absence of white brain substance. That hinders communications between different parts of the brain which manifests in John’s case in a profound speech and language disorder and in various physical problems including diplegia in his right leg. John was in special needs schools from the age of 8 onwards and then moved on to a special needs college where a series of problems led to him coming home in 2016 with a diagnosis of PTSD. By 2019, he had improved to the point where he could leave the house to participate in day placement activities for people with learning difficulties, but then COVID hit and all of a sudden John found himself confined to the house again for reasons he simply didn’t understand. In early 2021, that frustration had reached the point where he had violent episodes of self-harming and lashing out at the people around him, to the point where we needed to physically restrain him in order to prevent him from hurting himself and others. He was prescribed strong sedatives to help him calm down from those episodes.

Almost every violent episode was preceded by an escalating series of behaviours, usually starting with ‘John’ feeling very insecure and looking for constant reassurance that he was OK, safe, and so on. That reassurance worked a lot of the time as long as it was kept up, but if it dropped for a few seconds or sometimes even despite it John would fly off the handle and start hitting himself, throwing things, lashing out, etc., to the point where everyone felt they were walking on eggshells around him for a lot of the time. It was at that time that I came and talked to you as you had told me about Havening and whether it might be useful in John’s case. You gave me some Havening, and I realised it’s effectiveness. My wife and I started using it with him, I guess about 18-24 months ago and it is the one intervention that really seems to have made a difference — certainly more than the medication. If we can see a crisis coming on, we start Havening with him immediately and 9 times out of 10 it is successful in helping him to calm down. The frequency of the episodes has also decreased significantly. I’m not sure we can ascribe that entirely to the Havening because John has always had good and bad phases, but we’ve all seen its short-term benefits whenever he’s on the verge of one of his outbursts and it has become our main “go to” intervention as a result. We’re currently expecting him to move out of the house here in early 2024 and as you know we’ve suggested training in Havening for the entire team that will be working with him in the new residence”

I gave Havening Training to his care team of 8 people. They realised Havening’s potential for not only John but other’s in their care.

A Father speaks of his son who is in his late 20's

I have known Victoria Dickenson some few years now: as a friend, and a fellow -journeyer, an extraordinary adventurer, a spiritual seeker, and more importantly as a thoughtful and highly qualified practitioner, especially in Havening Techniques-which I see as one of the fastest, easiest to use healing modalities.

I have recommended her to my friends without a moments hesitation.
Why don't you see what it's like to work with her?

Nancy Dyer. Very retired former Vice President and GM, American Express.

ND NYNY

Victoria Dickenson has been my regular counsellor for over 15 years, from an initial lengthy course of sessions, to regular top up sessions through the years when I have found the need.
I have found her to be professional, courteous and extremely effective in assessing my needs and stresses in order to help me with difficult periods in my life. I find her methods and the way she practises to be caring and understanding, whilst objective and constructive in then finding a way to work with my personal history and issues to resolve them and grow my confidence and abilities as a person.
I have seen at least 3 other counsellors throughout my life, but quickly realised that they didn’t seem to hear my issues or understand me, so I knew I wasn’t sharing myself fully and did not therefore benefit in any particular way.
I find Vic to be insightful and understanding, and value the insight she gives me along with the explanations of her methods and understanding of behaviour and my own personal circumstances, and how that can work for me in alleviating the stress and behaviours I have found challenging in my life.
I do not believe that I would be the objective, more self-aware and calmer person I am today without her help and guidance over the years. Those close to me have seen an absolute change in my ways for the better and are aware that it is Vic who has helped me to achieve this, which has benefited both my work and personal life.
In times of stress and crisis I know that Vic will be there to guide me and get me back on track.
Tina F
01/09/2025

Tina F.